Being in the therapist role at the holidays while simultaneously giving to those in your personal life can feel overwhelming. Are you getting enough time off to feel recharged and ready for the new year?
As an Introvert and Highly Sensitive Person, I understand the struggles of balancing self-care while supporting others. I want to help you reduce overwhelm and honor your Strengths as a Sensitive Therapist so you can feel fulfilled in your work again.
All in self-care
Being in the therapist role at the holidays while simultaneously giving to those in your personal life can feel overwhelming. Are you getting enough time off to feel recharged and ready for the new year?
Don’t measure time off by what everyone else is doing, instead take the time you need to maintain a sustainable practice and work-life balance. You can build your therapy practice around your bandwidth.
Being a therapist takes a significant amount of energy and focus, but friends and family don't usually understand what your work entails. It’s important to protect the space around the work so you’ll have the internal resources you need to show up fully for your clients, get your admin work done, process and decompress afterward, and then have something left over for yourself. Are you often pulled between work and personal life?
When you create a practice or therapeutic style that honors your needs, the work can feel more sustainable. When you feel supported, you can more easily support your clients. Making changes may make your services unavailable to some folks and that’s okay! You can’t help everyone, especially if your needs are ignored, but you can help some people in deeply profound ways.
What if stepping away to recharge and reconnect with yourself was part of the framework of being a therapist? Here I share my own experience of taking a sabbatical and what I discovered along the way.
After graduation, you’re searching for a counseling field placement that doesn’t leave you feeling burned out before you even get licensed and fully start your therapist career. All the usual places (agencies, hospitals, schools) come with demanding caseloads and productivity standards. Thinking outside the box on the path to complete your hours will be the key to sustainable work as a therapist now and in the future.
Sensitive Therapists need time to process the impact of doing this work and to nurture yourself on client days. Just focusing on the administrative side of being a therapist and only getting self-care time on the weekends is not sustainable for someone who feels deeply and has a high level of empathy. Carve out moments to release, digest, and recharge as often as you can.
Sensitive Therapists seem more likely to get filled with self-doubt. You question whether or not you’re seeing enough clients, if you should trust your intuition to narrow your clinical focus, and whether or not you can follow your own path to licensure and beyond. You’ll also wonder how you’ll ever get enough self-care to feel okay with this heavy emotional work!
When you’re rushed between seeing clients and getting home, your nervous system can get easily overstimulated, creating feelings such as anxiety or irritability. This article includes four ways you can approach the transition from therapist self to personal life more intentionally.
You may want to help every client who reaches out, but putting empathy first often leads to therapist burnout. It’s important to consider how many clients you can support long-term when you set adequate boundaries.
The struggle of accessibility vs. sustainability burdens Sensitive Therapists who are highly empathetic and care deeply for their clients. You alone cannot solve the problem of mental health accessibility, but you can make sure you maintain a sustainable practice so you can offer care for years to come while honoring your own needs.
Winter can bring specific challenges for the Sensitive Therapist such as overwhelm from holiday obligations, financial anxiety and irritability from changes in routine. It’s difficult to manage the expectations to support our clients, run our businesses and maintain family commitments, all at the same time.
Now more than ever it’s important to focus on the essentials and prioritize preserving your energy. Being more empathetic and more aware of little details is a great asset as a Sensitive Therapist but can become overwhelming when life becomes stressful, scary, or we are supporting many clients through trauma. Our temperament makes us more prone to the effects of compassion fatigue or vicarious trauma, but thankfully we are also more susceptible to the beneficial effects of positive supports.
Taking time off is not optional, but essential to thrive in the work we do of supporting the emotional well-being of others. We have a greater need for downtime which means taking more time away to ensure our work is sustainable and doesn’t lead to burnout. This means planning ahead of time to ensure we have time away. Taking so much time off may bring up financial worries or feelings of guilt, but can be managed with budgeting and setting clear expectations with our clients.
7 ways to honor our needs and calm down the overwhelm and exhaustion many Sensitive Therapists are feeling now. All therapists have been bearing the emotional toll of supporting clients as we ourselves experience a worldwide crisis, but Sensitive Therapists will have a unique reaction due to our heightened empathy, perceptive abilities, and need to process our experiences deeply. Going forward, we will need to reflect on what has already happened and give ourselves time to ease into the changes ahead in order to tame the overwhelm and exhaustion we’re feeling right now. Now more than ever we must go at our own pace, set strong boundaries in every area of our lives, and take time to rest.
Supporting clients who are experiencing some of the same emotions and uncertainties as we are could lead to overwhelm, compassion fatigue, and burnout. It’s vital that we set strong boundaries, take time to ground ourselves, create space between sessions, get support from our therapist communities, and take time off if we need to.
Taking time off is not optional, but essential to thrive in the work we do of supporting the emotional well-being of others. We have a greater need for downtime which means taking more time away to ensure our work is sustainable and doesn’t lead to burnout. This means planning ahead of time to ensure we have time away not only for vacations and travel, but also for staycations to decompress, workations to catch up on administrative tasks and trainings to satisfy continuing education requirements. Taking so much time off may bring up financial worries or feelings of guilt, but can be managed with budgeting and setting clear expectations with our clients.
Our finely tuned nervous systems make Highly Sensitive Therapists more susceptible to the physical effects of overstimulation. Movement and physical self-care are essential practices to combat the effects of sitting and getting easily dysregulated.
Setting boundaries can be a very difficult but essential practice to avoid overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety and burnout for Highly Sensitive Therapists.
As Highly Sensitive Therapists, we need to take our self-care practice to the next level to deeply nourish ourselves and prevent burnout.