Being in the therapist role at the holidays while simultaneously giving to those in your personal life can feel overwhelming. Are you getting enough time off to feel recharged and ready for the new year?
As an Introvert and Highly Sensitive Person, I understand the struggles of balancing self-care while supporting others. I want to help you reduce overwhelm and honor your Strengths as a Sensitive Therapist so you can feel fulfilled in your work again.
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Being in the therapist role at the holidays while simultaneously giving to those in your personal life can feel overwhelming. Are you getting enough time off to feel recharged and ready for the new year?
Being a deeply feeling, empathetic therapist certainly has its struggles, but let’s not forget the bright spots that make this work special. When you can allow yourself permission to work in alignment with your needs, you get to bypass burnout and experience the best parts of being an HST while creating meaningful change for your clients.
Can you be a good therapist and make choices about who you help based on what feels most aligned to your needs, personality, or interests? For HSTs, there is so much benefit in narrowing your clinical focus to help your clients more effectively while you feel more satisfied as the clinician. This work is often so draining for us, it’s paramount to bolster against burnout in every way you can.
Don’t measure time off by what everyone else is doing, instead take the time you need to maintain a sustainable practice and work-life balance. You can build your therapy practice around your bandwidth.
Being a therapist takes a significant amount of energy and focus, but friends and family don't usually understand what your work entails. It’s important to protect the space around the work so you’ll have the internal resources you need to show up fully for your clients, get your admin work done, process and decompress afterward, and then have something left over for yourself. Are you often pulled between work and personal life?
Finding referrals can be exhausting and tug on your heartstrings. Whether your caseload is full or an inquiring client isn’t a good fit (presenting concerns, location, fee, insurance, etc.), you may feel the pressure to find the exact right referral for everyone. What can you do instead? This post shares 6 ways to release the burden of finding referrals for everyone who reaches out while also being responsive and helpful.
When you create a practice or therapeutic style that honors your needs, the work can feel more sustainable. When you feel supported, you can more easily support your clients. Making changes may make your services unavailable to some folks and that’s okay! You can’t help everyone, especially if your needs are ignored, but you can help some people in deeply profound ways.
If you knew then what you know now, would you still choose to be a therapist? Reflections on the impact of being a therapist and how this role changes you and impacts your personal relationships. This work is special, it’s just mixed with the dread of doing paperwork, the exhaustion of the daily emotional rollercoaster you go on session to session, the self-doubt of being enough for your clients, and the upkeep of running a private practice or navigating the politics of a group/agency setting.
During the screening process, are you trusting your intuition to refer clients out? Initial contact with clients can seem so insignificant compared to the therapy itself, but this process is a critical part of maintaining a sustainable practice. You and the client must match on availability, fee, presenting issue, and other factors. Maintaining your boundaries is the compassionate choice and in the best interest of the client.
What if stepping away to recharge and reconnect with yourself was part of the framework of being a therapist? Here I share my own experience of taking a sabbatical and what I discovered along the way.
As a highly empathetic and deeply feeling therapist, setting boundaries feels uncomfortable, difficult, or impossible. You worry about being too business-like and not a caring human, but predictability creates safety for clients. With stronger boundaries comes fewer decisions and less emotional fatigue for you, the therapist.
As a Sensitive Therapist, it’s important to think outside the box when setting up your practice. Don’t worry about what you should do or what everyone else is doing, but what would feel supportive and sustainable to you. This could include more phone sessions, fewer phone calls, scheduling boundaries, and dedicated self-care days.
Back-to-back sessions are a Highly Sensitive Therapist's worst nightmare. Your mind doesn’t have time to process all your session details and your nervous system never gets a chance to decompress from the stimulation. If you’re on the emotionally spongy or empathic side, you’ve also picked up some of your clients emotional “residue”. With too many sessions crammed into one day, you leave work drained, frazzled, irritated, or on the verge of burnout. This article dives into the specifics of why too many sessions and not enough downtime will leave you feeling depleted.
When you create an intentional and predictable schedule based on your own unique needs, you’ll feel more prepared for sessions, have energy to write notes, enjoy more self-care time, and have peace of mind knowing everything is done.
You may want to help every client who reaches out, but putting empathy first often leads to therapist burnout. It’s important to consider how many clients you can support long-term when you set adequate boundaries.
The struggle of accessibility vs. sustainability burdens Sensitive Therapists who are highly empathetic and care deeply for their clients. You alone cannot solve the problem of mental health accessibility, but you can make sure you maintain a sustainable practice so you can offer care for years to come while honoring your own needs.
Winter can bring specific challenges for the Sensitive Therapist such as overwhelm from holiday obligations, financial anxiety and irritability from changes in routine. It’s difficult to manage the expectations to support our clients, run our businesses and maintain family commitments, all at the same time.
When you look over your schedule for the next week or even the next few weeks, does everything feel sustainable or do you get an immediate sense of overwhelm and dread? Although it may seem impossible, there are ways to make your days run a bit smoother and to make sure what’s important to you makes it to the top of your priority list.
Being empathetic is a powerful clinical skill, but becomes a burden when we need to switch from clinician to business owner. Our guilt can make it difficult to enforce our business policies and collect fees. We prioritize the needs of our clients over our own leaving us at risk for financial distress and emotional burnout.
Setting boundaries can be a very difficult but essential practice to avoid overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety and burnout for Highly Sensitive Therapists.